13 ways to keep a loved
one’s memory alive

Remember a lost loved one in a way that feels healing and connective to you

  • 1. Make a charitable donation in your loved one’s name

    You can support a cause that was important to your loved one or make a gift to the end-of-life care provider who helped your loved one feel more comfortable and at peace in their final days.

  • 2. Visit a meaningful place

    Take a trip to a locale close to your heart, where you shared memories with your loved one. You could also go to a place they always wanted to visit to feel closer to them.

  • 3. Write letters

    Compose letters to your loved one as if you’re talking with them or they can read your words, so you can continue to stay connected to the person you miss so dearly.

  • 4. Create a garden inspired by your loved one’s memory

    Plant a tree or a garden to honor your loved one. The physical activity may also keep you busy, help you feel productive, and connect you to others who will enjoy the fruits of your labor.

  • 5. Light a candle in honor of remembering a lost loved one

    Honor your loved one by lighting a candle or offering a word of prayer during a vigil or religious service.

  • 6. Designate and dedicate a legacy bench, plaque, or paver

    Mini memorial monuments such as these can have photos, text, and other personalized design elements on them that represent a loved one. The best places to set up a mini memorial monument are a spot where you will see it often or a place that was meaningful to your loved one.

  • 7. Create a special place in your home

    Fill the mantle with photos of your loved one. Carve out a certain part of the house where they often spent time and make this their place. Lay a blanket they loved on their favorite chair, so you can sit there and feel close to them.

  • 8. Plan an event for remembering your loved one

    Organize a 5K race, dance-a-thon, or spaghetti dinner, and invite your loved one’s family and friends. Make it an annual event to continue remembering them.

  • 9. Establish annual traditions

    Eat your loved one’s favorite cookies on their birthday. Release a balloon with a special note inside on the anniversary of your loved one’s passing or a specific date that’s significant to the two of you. The possibilities are endless, and you can be creative.

  • 10. Change traditions that no longer feel right

    Or you can start new traditions that make you feel good. For example, start going out to dinner on Thanksgiving if hosting at home now feels empty without your loved one.

  • 11. Start a blog

    Connect with other people who are grieving a lost loved one by writing about your experience. You may inspire others who are also working through the stages of grief. You may also enjoy sharing happy stories while remembering your loved one’s life.

  • 12. Remember a loved one by keeping a piece of them close

    Dangle your loved one’s wedding ring on a chain around your neck, wear their scarf, or turn their clothing into a blanket.

  • 13. Learn to do something your loved one was good at

    From painting to building furniture, focusing on the development of a new skill may make you feel close to your loved one while carrying on their legacy.

You could do one, several, or all of these. No matter which you choose to do, the most important part is to remember a lost loved one in whatever ways that feel healing and connective to you.